Reading Philosophy

Nov 17, 2006 22:43 # 43640

happybunny9 * posts about...

Why?

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Dont you really wonder why? sometimes,why did I not say sorry?why did I not study? why did we break up? why am i sad? why am I happy? but what on earth do you do, when the why? and the what ifs consume you?. Dont get me wrong, please, I am an optimist the one who sees the silver lining in every situation, but I have days when...when it all goes wrong!
I have friends that need my advice! I have my mam and little brother to stay strong for, I really, really cannot afford to let my inner emotions affect them!
So unfortunatly whilst Im pondering upon my past and wondering why certain things happened and why certain things didnt happen, I begin wondering why im so absorbed in it! and truthfully my head feels so close to exploding its not even funny!
I know my life could be worse, of course it could! I would be one hell of an obnoxious person not to realise that, I have a home, I have family, I have friends, I have a job....my question is really...why(haha) why do we as humans question so much? why do we beat ourselves up over situations and circumstances that just cannot be rectified??
maybe I should learn from the sadness and confusion and every time a bad memory pops up in my mind and I begin beating myself up for why things wernt done differently, I can do something good...something that will make somebody happy and take my mind off it...hmmmm any suggestions???

Nov 20, 2006 00:32 # 43642

yoshi314 * throws in his two cents...

Re: Why?

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Digging into the past makes you forget the present. And lose the future. You'll most likely find a box full of wtf's along the way.

My past haunts me when i go to sleep. The most stupid and embarassing things make a comeback. That's all the connection with my past that i need.

"Life is a queue. You come in, hang around for a bit, get some service, then depart."

Nov 20, 2006 12:11 # 43643

happybunny9 * replies...

Thank you

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I really appreciate your reply...maybe its true that I do dig into my past waaay too deep but i dont mean to. Maybe its the fact that Ive suppressed alot of shit in my past and now its coming back, anyway thank you.

Nov 24, 2006 14:46 # 43653

Bunk *** throws in his two cents...

Re: Why?

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Because we in the developed and over-educated world are told that we're special, great, wonderful, perfect creatures, and that we can do anything if we put our minds to it. As much as we try to live up to that, we can't, so when we make a mistake, we feel like we're either wasting our glorious potential or that everything we've been told about ourselves is a lie. Neither is very pleasant.

"History is more or less bunk." - Henry Ford

Nov 28, 2006 01:27 # 43657

yoshi314 * has a suggestion...

Re: Why?

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Because we in the developed and over-educated world are told that we're special, great, wonderful, perfect creatures, and that we can do anything if we put our minds to it. As much as we try to live up to that, we can't, so when we make a mistake, we feel like we're either wasting our glorious potential or that everything we've been told about ourselves is a lie. Neither is very pleasant.

Ahh the joys of pessimism... Seems like i'm living my life the right way. Thinking low of yourself makes you a more pragmatic man.

No way. People are different. That's what makes them special - the life experience that makes them the way they are. Life is not meant to be pleasant. It's up to you to find good things in your life and make it life better.

"Life is a queue. You come in, hang around for a bit, get some service, then depart."

Jan 06, 2007 11:43 # 43791

Hawkeye *** replies...

Re: Why?

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Because we in the developed and over-educated world are told that we're special, great, wonderful, perfect creatures, and that we can do anything if we put our minds to it. As much as we try to live up to that, we can't, so when we make a mistake, we feel like we're either wasting our glorious potential or that everything we've been told about ourselves is a lie. Neither is very pleasant.

Because nobody is perfect, and the fatal mistake our parents made with us is precisely to confuse everybody into thinking they are. We all strive to be perfect, and when we're not, we question ourselves and the people we are. Consequentially, little mistakes turn into big contradictions in our lives (how big depends on how much bs you were spoonfed into thinking you were perfect).

When a car breaks down, you fix it and keep driving, right? When we buy a car, we don't expect it to never break down. Just because it doesn't break down a couple years after we buy one doesn't ever make us think it will always be that way. So why do we presume this about ourselves? Why is it when *our* cars break down, we determine it to mean that it is an indication we are lower than mud? Things break.

In short, if you aren't a perfectionist, then you anticipate problems. And, like a car breaking, you fix it and move on with your life. If you think Abe Lincoln didn't have problems, you should read up on some history. Yet, he became president of the united states when many would have given up. It isn't *perfectionism* that makes great people, just optimism.

If the world should blow itself up,the last audible voice would be an expert saying it can't be done

Mar 27, 2007 21:25 # 44258

betty *** replies...

Re: Why?

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Being able to ask "why?" is the key to human consciousness. This idea of self allows us to analyze our lives and our actions, compare them to the lives and actions of others and eventually (hopefully) better ourselves for having asked the question.

I have made soooo many bad decisions in my life, only by asking "why" have I found answers that kept me from hating myself. I also have chosen not to regret any of my bad decisions. I'm a lot more of a 'happybunny' myself because of it.

Definitely don't stop asking why. Observe life to your heart's content. My advice would be to try to seperate yourself from the event emotionally, try to analyze it instead of feeling it. It does not serve any purpose, unless you are a writer, to dredge up the negative emotions and get caught in that downward spiral. Dissect the memories, withhold judgement, draw your conclusions, then file it in your brain under "experience".

Basically what I am saying is,
Live and Learn.

I am just me, searching for simplicity.........and a good hair stylist

Mar 28, 2007 00:13 # 44265

smashedmotif * throws in his two cents...

Re: Why?

maybe I should learn from the sadness and confusion and every time a bad memory pops up in my mind and I begin beating myself up for why things wernt done differently

"There should be a science of discontent (Dune, Frank Herbert)."

I love reading Russian Literature!!!

Mar 14, 2008 08:58 # 45554

Turings_child *** replies...

Re: Why?

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I think questioning your actions is a good thing as long as this questioning doesn't consume you emotionally. If you spend all your time analysing the past you cannot move into the future.

I thinks therefore I is

Mar 14, 2008 12:56 # 45558

harold_maude *** replies...

Re: Why?

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The past is a good teacher. It's very tempting to get lost in the bad things of the past, and feel everything from self loathing to fear that it is going to catch up with you.
We all make mistakes, bad choices, choices in emotional moments and the rest of it, that's the way it is being human.

When your little you learn not to touch the hot burner because it does burn. It becomes a very valuable lesson and you learn by getting burned not to touch the stove.

But to keep beating yourself up just keeps you unable to go forward and do things different.
You can't change the past, but you can learn to do different and then avoid the need to make up for something you can't change.
That's about all I know to do with it. And I have had my share of times lost in self loathing and deep guilt.


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