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I've been in love with this guy for 8 years. Unfortunately we were engaged for 6 years and separated for 2 years
To this day I'm still in love with him even though he has started to be someone who was not so good for me. I am trying my hardest to let go, but I find it difficult to move on. Somebody please kick me in the head, there's obviously something wrong there.
That is the hard thing about love. No amount of kicking and screaming makes it go away. I just learned that the first real love of my life got married and it reopened the pain. I found that no matter what there is this void in my heart that will not go away. The only thing you can do is hold your head up high, take each day at a time and try and limit those late night thoughts about this lost love. The bad news is, you will never stop feeling love for this person but the good news is you might learn that loving them was a lesson to yourself about what love is, and that heartache is not the killer of your life. Remember the good about the relationship but never forget to acknowledge the bad because that is a tool for you to form healthier, happier relationships in the future.
I hope you find this post, and that it is helpful to you.
--Jami Yeah, that's gonna sting in the morning.
When the beautiful goes toxic it ends up making a mess. There's no two ways around it.
When you let another person in to your heart so deeply that they put down roots having expectations that it's something you can just get over is unrealistic.
They put down roots after all. The choice to let go of them is entirely yours.
A few useful things to do is get rid of everything they gave you. Let nothing remain in the physical to remind you or to stir the longing and the want. This helps because it's like erasing them out of your life, item by item.
Then it's just the memories and a way to deal with that is to fill those places with other things, not another person, but other things that will help you find you again. Find who you were before you met this person. And you'll get to find out how much you've grown and who you are now.
Give your self time to grieve. It's important when anyone we love is gone out of our lives for what ever reason.
Trying to fill that space with another person as soon as possible is a whole lot like getting another puppy right away after the dog that's been with you for years has died. It's not fair to the puppy or the dog that you lost.
When you do finally get to the place where another can find room in your heart it will be good and you'll discover that it's possible to have more than one love of a life time. That's the beauty of love, it's capable of the profound in a life more than just one time.